There is a strange scene in this week's parasha that we must not overlook. G-d assigned Moshe a difficult job – to be the one to tell his older brother, Aharon, that on that very day he was to die and not enter the Land of Canaan. Understandably, Moshe had a hard time coming to terms with this. Moshe asked Aharon to ascend the mountain Hor HaHar, together with his son Elazar...Moshe asked Aharon, "If G-d would tell you to die in a hundred years from now, would you accept what He said? Aharon answered, "Tzaddik Hadayan" – the Judge is all-Righteous, and I have faith in Him and would accept! Then Moshe asked Aharon- And if G-d were to ask you to die today, would you accept willingly? Aharon answered in the affirmative. Moshe then said, "Follow me to the top of the mountain, for that is precisely what G-d asked me to tell you!"
Aharon walked behind Moshe like a sheep going to slaughter. G-d then said to the Angels - At the Akeidat Yitzchak, you stood in shock as you stood by and watched. Come, now, and see how the older brother is walking behind his younger brother to accept death upon himself.(Midrash Yilmedenu)
Moshe told Aharon, "Enter the cave." Aharon entered. Get up onto the bed. And Aharon did. Stretch out your hands, stretch out your arms, close your mouth, close your eyes…Aharon obeyed every direction he was given.
R' Chechik, zt"l, asks the following. How can we understand the comparison that G-d makes between the self sacrifice of our Forefather Yitzchak, at the age 38 on the Altar, to Aharon's acceptance of death at the age of 123?
The answer here is powerful and applicable to every turn we take in life. When Aharon chose to obey the will of G-d, accepting G-d's will that he die, that acceptance was no less significant in the eyes of G-d than Yitschak's stretching out his neck under his father's knife.
There are things in life that G-d chooses for us. It is for us to choose if His choice is what we (think we) want, or if we do not want what G-d has chosen for us. When we pick option two, we are in for misery. The moment we feel with the greatest clarity that our choice is being taken away from us is in the face of death. This may be why subconsciously people are so afraid of death. For in the grave, there is no choice. It's "game over." When Aharon faced death, he accepted it. No complaints. This is called choosing what is. This is a great level for a human to achieve. When G-d chooses things that may not be our preference, like death, or any other situation in life where G-d puts up a road block for us, if we can choose to recognize that the decision G-d has made is good, and that this is what I want to happen, this is my choice as well, then G-d will accord us the credit He accorded Yitzchak on the Altar. Although Yitzchak was a mere 38 years old, his willingness and passion to accept G-d's decree for his self sacrifice was in some way equal to that of someone at the age 123, and in his last breaths, he says, G-d if you want me to die, I want it, too. As much as we may not think so, our job, income, family, health, can change from one day to the next. Suddenly, a family member may be gone. We must accept this, if G-d chose it, and we cannot do anything about it. It is the best for the deceased, and, somehow, the best for us. Because that is what G-d chose.
Of course, when someone is sick, he must not choose to stay sick. If one is fired from a job, he should not choose to stay out of a job. But he should choose to recognize that the place where he was working must not have been the right place for him. The place for his success, financially, ethically or in growing as a person must be somewhere else.