The Gemara in Masechet Sanhedrin explains the pasuk in Mishlei: "The wisdom of women builds their homes" refers to On Ben Pelet's wife. Upon seeing that her husband joined Korach's camp, Mrs. On told her husband, "It isn't worthwhile for you to join the feud – you gain nothing from the fight. No matter who wins, you will remain in the same position You will not become the leader as a result of getting involved." He listened to her advice, which ended up saving his life.
The question is therefore asked, "Why does the passuk choose to praise her for this? What insight did she provide that we should label her "a wise woman"? It is a fundamental concept - we are taught as youngsters never to fight. Certainly we shouldn't get involved in a fight where there is no gain awaiting us! So what is this 'wisdom' that the Pasuk is attributing to her?
Rav Chaim Shmuelevitz brings out a phenomenal point which beautifully answers our question. Human nature is that at a time of argument and fighting, even the simplest things can become blurred in our minds. When one has no benefit, it is obvious that one should not get involved in a disagreement! However, during a quarrel, the fire of the argument burns so great that the simplest truths become blurred. Even those who are not directly involved, often become entangled in the argument. Therefore, when someone has the clarity of thought to realize the uselessness of getting involved in a dispute, he is considered a wise man.
Unfortunately we are all of involved or pulled into an argument from time to time. We usually tend to think that it is obvious that we are right and the other party is wrong. Our Rabbis are teaching us that this is not the point, even if you are right, you are wrong. In most disagreements and arguments we must discern what is the end gain in this? What did I accomplish overall? Usually, we gain nothing. It is not as simple as we think and in times of machloket (fighting), only a truly wise man is able to see the truth. May we be zoche to have peace in our community and in Klal Yisrael, which will bring Mashiach quickly in our days. Amen.